How to Make the Transition from Married to Single Smooth and Easy

Date Posted:January 10, 2016 | Categories:

Transition from Married to Single

Making the transition from married to single can be difficult, but there are ways to reduce the emotional stress.  Here’s some advice on how to ease the transition.

  1. Reacquaint yourself with YOU! You outside of marriage are a different person, with new experiences, better perspective and a fresh outlook on life. Work at taking a positive perspective on everything in your life as you set out on this new course. Try to give yourself the time and space to know the new you without clouding your perspective with another relationship right away.
  2. Give yourself time to heal. Divorce is a kind of death. Take time to mourn the death of those hopes and dreams. Then give yourself permission to move on to a happier, healthier life. Give a post-divorce support group a try. Make sure you stay away from the ones that are nothing but gripe-fests, and look for one that will focus on re-creating a positive life going forward.
  3. Read, read, read! Read self-help books, blogs, and anything else that will help you renew and rebuild a positive sense of who you are, who you want to be, and where you are going.
  4. Make a list. What do you want to do? Where do you want to go and what do you want to accomplish? Unless we’re able to define some of those things, and create the vision for ourselves, how do we know if we have accomplished what we want in this life? “Bucket list” is a popular term, but go beyond the concept of a “go-see-do” list to what do you want to accomplish – what will be your legacy. Then set concrete goals, with time deadlines tied to them, for when you would like to have accomplished that goal. In fact, outline all the steps to the goal, and set a timeline for those goals.
  5. Try new things and make new friends! Join a club or class that interests you. Broaden your perspective. Seek out positive, fun people who feel good about themselves and have a bright outlook on life. Just by doing this you are creating a positive, uplifting and healing environment for yourself and your new life.
  6. Make a conscious effort to practice smiling. After going through an emotionally trying episode like divorce, it is easy to let that show on our faces without even realizing it. Whether you are home alone or out shopping for groceries, relax your face and smile!
  7. Be kind to yourself. Realize this is a marathon, not a sprint. Getting to know yourself and what you want out of life separate from your ex-spouse is an important part of the post-divorce journey, and there may well be setbacks on the way. Expect those and forgive yourself for any missteps. Then get about the business of re-creating a positive, happy life!

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